I’ve come
to learn that no matter what kind of relationship you’re in, a relationship is a place you go to
give. It’s not a place where you go to “deserve”, or “owe”;
the latter notions mentioned are based on fear (driven by your ego mind), and
not based on love (which is driven by your heart—your spirit). 
If two
people are in a relationship to give to one another, they would then have
balanced each other’s needs and wants, and given just a little more weight to one
another’s happiness.
In a true partnership, the kind worth striving for, the kind worth insisting on, and
even, frankly, worth divorcing over, both people try to give as much, or even a
little more than they get. “Deserves” is not the point.
“Fair” is not the point. And “owes” is certainly not the
point.
The point
is to make the other person as happy as we can because their happiness adds to
ours. The point is, in the right hands, everything that you give, you
get. If both partners are in it to give to the other, then somehow life’s
inevitable challenges can become a much smoother, healthier, happier ride.
As we go
into the weekend, let’s be reminded to not only “give” during
“special occasions”, but to give all year… everyday. It doesn’t
have to be materialistic. A priceless gift of acknowledgment, understanding,
compassion, even a smile, a hug… doesn’t matter what it is or how you do it
just as long as your intentions are truly to make the other person’s day a
little brighter without expecting anything in return. 
This
unconditional way of being is the thing that makes you rich! Makes you and
others feel alive, nurtured and empowered like nothing else in this world
can.