So you have a list of qualities that you look for in your ideal mate, but can you reciprocate those qualities?

Just me.

This month I'm going to address a few popular questions that many of you have continually asked. Why can't I find the right person for me? Is there anyone out there for me? What can I do to find my soul mate? These kinds of questions arose even amongst those who are presently married (obviously unhappily). Well, I'm not an expert on this topic, so I did some research to find out what most relationships experts have to say—and this is what I found: a foolproof method that works, time and time again!

Waiting for the sun to set—looking down at the sea of people by the shore.

Write down everything you want in your ideal mate. Be very specific and include everything, focusing mainly on the qualities of the person rather than the physical. Then take a look at what you wrote, and from that list, pick out the things you don't do well, and work on those things. If you're looking for someone who is a loving person, give more love to others. If you're looking for someone who has a great body, start an exercise regime. If you're looking for someone who is generous, find a charity to sponsor and so on.

Why do I say this? It's because we're like magnets. We're composed of energy, and so whatever we are, we attract the same to us. This means that in order for you to attract someone with the qualities you want, you have to be those qualities first!

The fireworks begin!

Cheese...

When you begin working on those qualities that you lack, you'll learn to enjoy your own company, grow stronger and more confident, and shift your attitude into one of gratitude. Be thankful even if what you desire isn't here yet. This is a positive affirmation of your belief that you deserve the good you are intending. Once you've reached this stage of the process, just know that you do not need to do anything else. This is crucial because humans by nature think they must always do more of something in order to get what they want. This is not always the right direction to take, especially in this scenario.

Came to watch a friend sing.

There he goes...

Waiting is the hardest part for everyone. People by nature want what they want when they want it. But you must never judge the process as taking too long. Your future mate may have to go through certain experiences to learn and grow before they are ready to meet you. Practice the art of patience—learn to just wait for the perfect timing of it to unfold. Patience will bring you the desire of your heart, unless you get in the way. If you try to make it happen when you want it to happen, you're getting in the way of divine timing.

I'm up next??

She's such a doll.

The beauty in all this is the ease in which you'll experience when you're in a place of knowing, peace and trust. If you're continually bemoaning your lack of a soul mate, worrying about it, or even angry because this soul mate isn't finding you, you're in a negative emotional vibration of fear, and you can only bring more of the same into your new life experiences. Remind yourself that forcing ahead to find this person, especially when you haven't completed all the work on yourself, will actually lead you to attract someone less than you desire. Use the power of your mind to stay true to what you want.

True friends are like soul mates.

The human mind is the most powerful tool on this planet, but statistics show the average person only uses about 3% of his or her brain capacity. (Albert Einstein was a genius, but he only used 7%). There are mysteries about the mind that will probably never be discovered. But the power of the mind is very real. Use this tool to create anything you want in life, including attracting your "perfect" person to you. And remember, perfect doesn't mean they're perfect in all they do, but it does mean they're a perfect fit for you.